Kinks and Desires of a Sissy
An Open Letter
This is the first ever guest post on After a Good Date. It’s by . Mishika identifies herself as a Sissy. I am a cis-heterosexual male, and I have never claimed to know about the dynamics and psyche of non-binary people. I have written only one story involving in which a character is bisexual. After a Good Date is a celebration of sex, and that includes sex involving all types of genders.
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, as an open letter, with my art, and a few touches here and there. It’s kinky and I hope you get to know something about Sissies when you finish reading it. Happy reading!
Who Am I?
Before I jump into the sexual part of describing my kinks and fetishes, let's do some foreplay with getting to know me a little. This section is kind of like "testing the waters" before we deep dive into it.
My name is Mishika, and I'm from Delhi, India. I identify my gender as a sissy. I know that many of us don't understand what one means by the term "sissy" as it can have multiple meanings. So, to be on the same page, I'll take the liberty of defining it below:
A sissy truly is a feminine non-binary being whose primary objective is to give everyone pleasure. A sissy commonly exhibits characteristics of hyper-femininity and submissiveness, and is a very sexual being. A sissy as a gender is associated with a person (typically a male by birth) who adopts hyper-feminine behaviors and practices (e.g., cross-dressing, putting on make-up, etc.), typically assuming the submissive role to a female, male, and/or any other gender or sexually oriented partner(s).
My sexual and romantic orientation is pansexual, meaning I don't look at the gender of a person to love them. I am attracted to people of all genders, whether male, female, sissy, transgender, non-binary, queer or intersex.
What does this mean?
Hyper-femininty
From the above definition, it is clear that being a sissy, I was born with male genitalia but identified more with the feminine nature and way of life, and chose to incorporate those more into my life to become as hyper-feminine as I can.
Now, what is hyper-femininity? In short, think of a very feminine girly-girl you know and multiply that by 50. That's hyper-feminine. That's me.
I love everything to be ultra-feminine. Of course, pink is my favorite color, and everything I own will be in pink. My room decor is practically just different shades of pink and white. So is my phone, laptop, wallpaper, gadgets, backpack, clothing, and so on.
I am into makeup and love it to the extent that I try out different styles and am constantly learning to be better at it. I love dressing up and exploring new fashions and wear everything feminine. I talk, walk, sit, eat, laugh, use the toilet, read, watch, and do every single action in the most feminine and graceful manner. I consume only girly content - movies, TV shows, books, music - it all caters to my internal feminine.
Femininity, to me, comes naturally. It isn't something forced or something I had to learn or train myself in. It was always in my blood, and once I realized it, it bled out through me!
Submissiveness
Also, as is clear from the definition itself, I am a very submissive being. In life, in bed, and in any way imaginable, submissiveness runs through a sissy's blood, and mine seems to be extra dosed with that.
So, I cannot be a domme or dominant to anyone. I cannot switch my role in the bedroom. I cannot whip anyone if they want me to or control them. That's because that is simply not my nature. I am made to be dominated, to be controlled, to be ordered around, and to serve my superiors in every way they want!
Submissiveness is more of a way of being, an intrinsic nature to me, than just a role in the bedroom. It is my nature, my natural way of life, my comfort zone - it is me. It is all about giving, and not focusing on receiving.
Sexual Being
Sissies usually have highly sexual tendencies. The sexual nature is at least 5x if not more than that of a normal person. Add chastity and orgasm only through getting fucked anally, and a sissy is a perpetual horny being.
Most sissies I have met in life are also very open-minded. We don't see the world as black and white because we ourselves exist in the grey areas.
Being open-minded and highly sexual beings opens up the world of sex for explorations to us. Nothing is too kinky or too extreme, and sissies are willing to try anything and everything (within legal limits, of course) and then base their limits, likes, and preferences upon actual tried encounters.
Thus talking to a sissy about their kinks and fantasies will always be a deep dive since they have a lot to talk about, and a lot they still want to explore too. Their fantasies are all over the place, and there isn't a second when their mind isn't thinking something naughty in the background.
Now that we are wet, I mean, er, set with the basics - that is, we know what a sissy is - let's get on the deep dive into me ;)
Mishika’s Favorite Kinks and Fetishes and Fantasies
While there is a big difference between kinks and fetishes and fantasies, here I just use them as a single word to describe what I like to do for/with my partners. I will mention "partners" as a broad term for any gender of partners, and when going into specific details, by "a man," I refer to any being with a penis, and by "a woman," I refer to any being with a vagina. I know it is not the best use of terminology here, but it keeps it easier to write and understand, so please bear with me.
Limits
Before I begin, it is important to mention my limits first:
Consuming Scat
Puke (anything to do with it)
Blood - Making me or my partner bleed in unnatural circumstances
Under 18 Years - Anything involving anything with underage is a strict no
Animals - Anything involving real-life animals is a strict no
Permanent body damage or harm or markings of any kind
Extreme pain and torture
Penis Insertions
Anything involving these is a big NO for me, and I don't entertain them in any way.
Also, it goes without saying, I set a safe word with my partners for any of my sessions before starting, so that in between play, if it ever gets too much to handle, I can stop the scene right away. I carefully choose and screen my partners to make sure they are decent enough to understand the meaning of safe word and consent.
Oral
There's something special about giving pleasure to your partner using only your mouth. I mean, there is no physical pleasure that you personally get while giving oral to someone - mentally, yes, but no physical pleasure. More than anything, it hurts your jaw or tongue when doing it for extended periods of time.
But there is this feeling of submissiveness, of bowing down to someone, of showing them that their pleasure is more important than your own in that moment, that you care for them to orgasm more, that you are willing to serve them with your mouth, give them pleasure with your tongue, that you are willing to take their genitals, which they use for excretion, inside your mouth - the area you use for consumption of food.
I find giving oral very hot, and years of giving it has made me very, very good at it too ;) I can easily deepthroat and fuck a man's cock using my mouth as well as go down on a woman's vagina and give her the best orgasm of her life using my tongue.
Giving oral is something that not only turns me on but also pleases my partners. It's reasonably safe, effective, and fun for both, and is my number one move!
Of course, any reward that cums with it is an added bonus, but more on this later!
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Rimming
While we are on the topic of pleasing partners with our tongue and mouths, I find it extremely, extremely erotic and a huge turn-on personally to lick my partner's ass, i.e., to rim it.
Running my tongue over their anus, from the base of their genital to the top of their butt crack, burying my face between their ass cheeks, rubbing my tongue on their anal hole, pushing it inside, and gently fucking it using my tongue - just writing all of these makes me so turned on right now.
If it's a man, then I love to stroke his big hard dick using my hands as I rim that hairy manly ass, and if it's a female, I love to stroke their clit and finger their vagina as I rim them.
Of course, rimming is another submissive act, as essentially the ass is considered something taboo, dirty, and kinky because we all excrete from there. So anything related to butt play falls under the kinky category - even anal does for many people. So licking someone's ass is, of course, a very taboo act no doubt, and not free from dangerous STDs. Hence, the partners I perform this act with are very limited. I don't just do it with anyone, no matter how much I want to.
Cleanliness is very important to me, and when I rim, it's always after making sure their butt is cleaned properly multiple times using soap and water and wet wipes.
In my fantasies, however, I do dream of times when I could get to lick my partner's ass after a full long day, maybe just after their workout when it's all sweaty, being forced there with my head held between their ass cheeks, or them sitting on my face with their ass on my mouth and their genitals on my nose and forehead, looking down on me, as I gasp for air. I also want to try someday to finger my partner's ass, put my finger inside it, and pull it out and then lick it and suck on it in my mouth. Yes, I am a dirty, dirty girl, hahaha. But yes, scat is a limit for me, so if I ever do that, I would want my partner to take an enema to clean their butt thoroughly beforehand.
Maybe someday, I will find a partner who will help fullfill all of my dirty rimming fantasies.
Spanks and Slaps — Impact Play
Being a submissive, spanking is a must. I personally love to be spanked using mostly bare hands. I have tried other methods such as paddles, shoes, belts, floggers, etc., but I found the hand to be the most intimate, humiliating, and causing enough pain and hurt.
The best position I find for spanking is being laid on my partner's lap, bottoms up, as they pull my panties down and spank my ass red, while making me thank them for every spank or count each spank on their behalf through my cries and tears. If they finger my sissy pussy (ass) in between the spanks, then it's even better.
I'm really turned off by bodily harm of any kind and don't like permanent markings being left on the body. So while I'm okay with the dominant using other objects for spanking, I prefer they do it carefully so as not to permanently mark my skin or make it too painful as I'm not into extreme pain.
In terms of other impact play, I also love the dominant slapping my face, my tits, my little sissy clitty (penis), or anywhere on my body they feel like at any moment during our encounter together. It turns me on and puts me in my submissive role right away.
I especially love being slapped on my face when I'm giving someone oral. Isn't it hot to pleasure someone using your mouth and then they slap you because they feel you're not doing a good job? It's so humiliating and turns me on a lot!
Humiliation, Abuses and Dirty Talk
There's something about humiliation and abuse that makes me go weak in the knees. I don't really know how I got into this kink, or what trauma in my childhood led me to this, but I know that it is a deeply embedded part of me.
Now, humiliation can come in different types. I personally like mental games, comments on my physical appearance, on how much of a dirty slut I am, etc. When my partner comments on my small little clitty (penis) and how useless it is for a woman, or how small it is compared to a real man's hard, erect big cock, it humiliates me but at the same time puts me in that submissive headspace and turns me on so much!
Besides this, I love abuses, especially if they're in Hindi while we're doing stuff. English abuses work fine too, like calling me a whore, slut, cunt, etc., but Hindi abuses can sometimes be so dirty and such a wild turn-on.
Dirty Talk is also a favorite, like how you're going to make a slut of me, or moaning your name while doing things to me, or abusing myself, or calling myself the name you want, or telling me how much of a bad, bad slut I have been, or begging you to stretch my holes, etc. For me, either I or you will be talking dirty during sex; otherwise, it doesn't count as sex.
Bodily Fluids
At its core, sex is all about the exchange of bodily fluids. While some people might think it is just about semen ejaculating inside a vagina, it is so much more than that. Let me explain from the top.
When we are getting in the moment, we are really close to each other and breathing hard. There is an exchange of breaths between the two partners. Then there is kissing involved where the mouths come together, and the tongues intertwine, exchanging saliva. Then, when the naked bodies of the partners come in contact, there is an exchange of sweat. Your partner's sweat comes on you, and yours comes on them, which is absorbed by the skin too.
Then, of course, during sex, there is the exchange of sexual fluids. Women's vagina lubricates itself, and the juices cover the cock while the semen may ejaculate inside the woman.
Now there can be many more permutations and combinations involved with this. Like when giving oral, your saliva comes in contact with the genital fluid, or when a woman is menstruating, there is menstrual blood involved.
All kinds of bodily fluids have captured some of my fascination, and personally, I like to taste those body fluids coming from my partner. It has something to do with their fluids entering my mouth and face and inside my body as if they are claiming me, owning me, making me theirs, which feels so hot to me.
I love a man to cum in my mouth or inside my sissy pussy (ass). Cum play is something I love a lot, especially if there is food involved. I would love a man to cum on my salad to add that extra dressing as he watches me eat that up, savoring it fully.
I love when a woman sits on my face and makes me drink her vaginal juices or her menstrual fluids.
I love to lick the sweat off my partner's body, drink their spit. I have had some people give me a golden shower (pee) on me, and it is the hottest thing I have experienced and gets me so turned on every time.
Animals pee to mark their location, and so my partners pee on me to mark me as theirs. For some partners who I feel the trust and the safety and know they are clean and lead a healthy lifestyle, I have even tasted their pee and drank some of it, and it is too hot.
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Roleplay
One of my biggest kinks is roleplay. I think I was born to be an actress, but only for a limited audience and in the bedroom only. I have roleplayed countless scenarios for multiple partners, and they always drive both me and my partners wild, especially because we get so lost in that mindset.
Sex is not just about the physical, but so much more about the mental side. Men get a thought and they get hard instantly. Women sometimes are too much in their heads and can't orgasm. Sex is all mental, and the physical is controlled by the mental.
And how do we stimulate that mental sexual area? By forming fantasies and having our imaginations run wild, which in turn manifest themselves in the form of roleplays.
I have had partners with all kinds of fantasies, from me enacting the role of a cousin sister to that of a bhabhi (sister-in-law), to a newlywed bride to that of a cheating girlfriend. Some were very detailed and intense roleplays, and some were very simple and inspired by porn. But every single one was fun and super hot to enact.
I usually love to dress up and do make-up for that part, along with modifying my dialogues and body language accordingly. My partner and I usually discuss the details of the roleplay a couple of days before so we can prepare for it. Yes, I am that professional.
Roleplays with me tend to get kinky and naughty, with some consensual noncon, some roughness, some incest fantasies, some corruption of the innocent, and a whole lot of submission from me.
Polyamory
While I love being naughty in one-to-one sessions with my partner, I am also a big fan of more than one. I have been with couples and groups of men before, and there is just so much rawness involved in that.
Imagine three different men, each touching some part of my body and stimulating me so much. Two of them going inside my body through different holes, one getting a handjob, as they all bond over dominating this one little sissy who is ready to make all three of their cocks cum multiple times in that night.
Or a sexy couple of husband and wife, where they want to indulge in a FFM but the wife is a little insecure, so they choose to be with a sissy like me. The woman gets her fun, and the man gets his, and I'm serving them both, bringing them closer together, making them love each other more by serving them and getting fucked by them.
I love being involved with groups and multiple partners at the same time, including other sissies or transsexuals. It is fun and keeps things interesting, and sometimes it gets very entertaining too!
Anal
As a submissive, anal sex is a must for me, since my ass is my pussy. I keep myself very clean down there to prevent any accidents, and I love taking it up my butt. Men enjoy putting their cocks up my ass and drilling me deep, while women love using dildos on me as I pleasure them with my tongue.
Over the years, I've adapted quite well to getting fucked in my ass, and my body now craves something inside it. When no one is filling my butt, I have to rely on filling it myself using a butt plug, which gives me that feeling of fullness I desire.
Since I usually keep my clitty (penis) locked in chastity, I've trained my body to cum only from getting fucked in my sissy pussy. I love when my partner is pounding my tight sissy hole, and I can't control myself any longer, and my clitty cums hands-free from just being fucked.
I love to be penetrated in multiple positions, and the longer, the better. I enjoy doggy style, missionary, cowgirl, reverse cowgirl, lotus, standing and pinned against the wall, and riding them on the couch.
I love feeling a man penetrate me bareback. There is so much raw and animalistic sexual energy attached to it. Being fucked without any barrier between us, taken in the true sense and filled up with their precious cum inside me, and then plugged so that none of that cum drips out, makes me feel like I am theirs.
Exhibitionism
I enjoy exhibiting myself online. Taking and posting naughty pictures online for others to view excites me. It thrills me to think that someone may be masturbating while imagining me or looking at my lewd photos. Little slutty Mishi, making the world cum haha.
Apart from just online pictures, I also enjoy light public dares. Such as going without panties under my dress outside or wearing revealing clothes that show off my ample cleavage or when my thongs are visible above my jeans. Some partners have dared me further, such as opening my top buttons to reveal my breasts entirely while driving on a weekend trip or giving them a blowjob while on the road. Such naughty adventures always turn me on and leave me all sexed up.
So, that was all about my kinks and fetishes.
Although, I do think that as we all constantly evolve through the years, so do our kinks and fetishes. Something that I'm into today, I might not be into tomorrow and something I'm not into today, I might really crave tomorrow.
It's a given and happens to all of us. Hence, I would like to conclude that the things written above are not set in stone and can change over time. But throughout my experiences so far, these are some of my kinks that have remained constant, and I am hoping they will continue because they definitely make my life much more exciting.
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